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Burial at Sea

8/14/19  A day to remember. While the ceremony for me was partially interrupted by sea sickness, the day went well for those living: Dave, Kathy, Gabriela and I.  It was good to see my brother on this particularly family day.  And honestly, it is a relief to finally lay to rest my Mother’s ashes where she wanted to be and Loris’s ashes too.  It is a few years since Mom died and the ashes have been in a plastic bag in an urn.

Spreading the ashes was also a relief for me because this was the only day during the week at the beach when I had some anxiety.  Will everything work out with the boat?  Will we get there on time and without a problem?  Will I get sick on the trip?  Will the bluetooth and music work out ok?  Will it be a nice ceremony?  My other hope was that Gabriela and I could have some time to speak with Dave and Kathy.

I am grateful that Dave decided to join this ceremony.  It really made the ceremony more meaningful for me.

I realized in the planning stages that the “ceremony” was for the living.  So, I embraced that idea with a selection of music that was meaningful to me, “Blue Boat Home”.  I also found a poem that I know Mom liked that I could read.

When time came, I read my piece and everyone had something to say.  Then we played the music and the ashes were placed in the sea. Then the urns were tossed in the sea.  Once back at the dock, I was a little shaky going up the stairs back to dry land, I suppose due to getting a little sick on the boat.  Looking for a place for some coffee we walked and found a restaurant where we had time to talk with Dave and Kathy while waiting for a table.  More than coffee we had a good lunch!

The Captain of the boat gave us Latitude and Longitude where the ashes were spread.

Lat: 44 48 33 N

Long: 124 05 19 W

The drive to and from Depoe Bay down highway 101 was pleasant.  Both Gabriela and I felt exhausted once we got back to Cannon Beach.  We both felt it was a good day.

                    Irish Blessing
  • May the road rise up to meet you, 
  • May the wind be always at your back,
  • May the sun shine warm upon your face,
  • May the rains fall soft upon your fields,
  • And, until we meet again,
  • May God hold you in the palm of his hand.